The 30-Minute Event That Changed My Perspective About Life
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I have been fascinated with life since I was a child. I had seen life as a constant string of responsibilities and as a plethora of opportunities.
But over the years, I have seen that most people walk through life with overwhelming fears, billions of doubts and a mind-set of scarcity. The job losses, loneliness, minute and huge failures, unending thoughts about the future, breakups, decision making, rejections, and even about being successful in life.
I’ll share a story with you.
A few years ago, I lived alone with my parents, I had just finished high school and very hopeful to further my education as I had just secured a partial scholarship to study Civil Engineering in Parul University, Vadodara, Gujarat, India.
My elder siblings, Jane and Tina, were away at college, and my younger siblings, Franklin, Temple and Godson, were boarders in a school far away from home. So, I was left all alone with my parents.
On a long-memorable-raw-afternoon, 02 July 2016, 13: 19pm, I was with my mom in the kitchen while she prepared lunch when my father stepped in from his library.
He had been reading a book WHEN IT HAPPENED. He seemed very tensed-up and had some sort of panicky feelings written all over his face.
I watched him constantly beat his chest in an excruciating manner which sent chills down my spine as I could feel the pains he passed through. At the same time, he was unable to let out a word from his mouth.
I rushed him to the hospital and asked my mom to get a few things such as clothes and food ready and bring them along to the hospital. Long story cut short, my beloved father passed on right there in the hospital.
But prior to this event, I had a long chat with my diary the night before dawn. Life seemed so beautiful and everything moved smoothly.
I had conversed with my diary where I’d see myself in 15+ years, the big wins, the big losses, everything!
Inasmuch as it’s a very good thing to have long-term goals and aspirations, life tries to let us focus on the present by having short term goals. Live the moment, they say!
Little did I know that life had something big for me in less than 24hours. Something BIG that would change my life blueprint forever.
As funny and painful it may seem to be, however, this epiphany forced a rethink on my views about life. I had to understand in the most painful way that we are like a SPECK OF DUST in existence.
Whoof!
Yes, Nature does whoof, and we are gone…and nothing will happen.
Life goes on.
Simple Things That Are Worth Doing In Life…(Do Them Now!)
My beloved reader, like me, you do not have to wait for the next 15–20 years time before you can start to enjoy the best moments life has got to offer you. Doing these simple things will help you Navigate Your Life to the right direction.
- Have a friend. It’s good to have a friend who you can always confide in. Try as much as possible to find non-toxic people. Be in the places and do things that give you a happy-cry feeling.
- Endeavour to know and do the Will of God for your life.
- Learn to be satisfied and happy with the way certain things are. They are just meant to be that way.
- Give to others what you wish you could give to yourself. Even the scripture admonishes us to treat others how we’d love to be treated.
- Allow your experiences — good or bad — to help you grow, not prevent you from having any other ones. Mistakes are proofs that you are trying.
- Learn to apologetically be yourself. You can’t be Mr. A and Mr. B at the same time. Everyone is unique in their own way. Some fellows live to please others. This is very wrong.
- More importantly, learn to apologize. Saying sorry may not make things go back to how it was before, but, it can renew the relationship you have with people, and even make it better!
- Everything happens for a reason. The day you are able to realize and completely understand why things happened in your life happened the way they did, you wouldn’t want to have it any other way.
- Have faith in your destiny. Even before you came here, there has been a destiny carved out for you.
- Listen to music. You know that feeling when you realize that a song speaks to you — the lyrics of the song are so beautiful and describe how you feel and you suddenly realize that you’re not alone.
- Find something you are so passionate about, you are willing to devote your life to it: whether it be a former hobby, a cause, whatever — it’s really worth it.
- Always spend time doing what you love. My younger brother never gets tired of playing the piano. He never gets tired of EATING music.
- Find a relevant book that impacts your life positively to read with your favourite cup of whatever, sitting on your chair, your bed, or any position of your choice!
- Learn to love yourself and love others as much as you love yourself. It’s very worthwhile to find someone who helps you grow, be the better version of yourself, and challenges you, not necessarily who drives you crazy with physically and biologically-induced feelings.
- Quit bad habits. This may not be an easy thing to do but not impossible if the will is there.
- Everyone has a personal addiction. How would you explain that feeling when you finally, finally decide to quit those habits and take care of your body? It is a big relief!
- Find joy in things such as your birthday, a holiday or even when you give to the less privileged.
- When you give, it returns to you in a multiplied fold, you get more empowered than the receiver or beneficiary.
- Show empathy. When your friends, relatives, or other people are hurt, garner as much empathy as you can. This shows that you truly care.
- Try as much as possible to have the RIGHT hand to hold when you need a little extra courage. It helps.
- Celebrate your wins — no matter how little they may seem to be. When you get the result you’ve always desired, be HAPPY.
- Know that you are brave without having anybody tell you. No matter what you pass through.
- Become somebody else’s strength. You’ll increase in strength and will never be FORGOTTEN.
- Laugh a little bit more.
- Give! Give!! Give!!! It feels good when we do something nice for someone. It feels good when someone does something nice for us.
- Lessen pride. Do not be high minded. Relate with both the lowly and mighty around you. Time lost cannot be regained. Learn to redeem time and do things that matter to your life and purpose of existence on Earth.
- Be the best you can and emerge as a star you are predestined to become. Try to involve yourself with people around you. Do things that you think are not so important. But don’t forget to DO THE SIMPLE THINGS.
My beloved reader, I remind you once again, tomorrow morning if you disappear, for sure, people will miss you, but, they won’t bother much for a very long time.
I say again,
Nature does WHOOF!
Yes, WHOOF!
And you’re gone — Just like my dad.
Nothing will happen.
It doesn’t matter what the whole world says about you. The world will go on fine with or without you. Just loosen yourself a little bit.
You May Also Like: My New Book-Navigate Your Life Has Become A Success
Writing a book has always been on my bucket list, and eventually, with Navigate Your Life, it became a reality. When I lost a scholarship to study Civil Engineering overseas due to the demise of my beloved father Rev. David Okechukwu Wankey, my entire perspective about life changed.
In this book, I share very simple but powerful life principles that I have personally learned throughout my life.
We are not on this planet permanently. I learned from my father that if you want to leave a legacy, do something worth writing or write something worth doing. In other words, a meaningful life must be purposeful.
Most people fear that life will come to an end, but unfortunately for them, it never begins. I wrote this book to help you enjoy your present moments because those moments are the only ones you can live in.
It will help you enjoy the gifts you have—your health, family, friends, and even your work. And at the same time, while enjoying the gifts, it will help you to move in the right direction to ensure a brighter future.
To get my book—Navigate Your Life, please go through any of the following links below.
You can Navigate Your Life today through Amazon or Paystack — No matter where you are in the World.
When you have finished reading NAVIGATE YOUR LIFE BY Godswill C. Okechukwu, you will know a lot more about how to move your life in the direction that you want it to go.
The 6 ideas and techniques we are going to work with together, will have already brought about a change in your thinking and your behaviour.
Just like me, you will be looking at yourself and your world in some profoundly different ways.
Hope you have a blessed read! 🙏🏽☺️
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Writing a book has always been on his bucket list and with NAVIGATE YOUR LIFE, it became a success. When Godswill lost a scholarship to study Civil Engineering due to the demise of his father, Rev. David Okechukwu Wankey, his entire perspective about life changed. In his book, he tries to teach the value of life and the value of time.
Godswill can usually be found reading a book, and that book will more likely that not be a psychological thriller.
He is currently completing a major at Micheal Okpara University studying Civil Engineering. He is a Content Writer, a Public Speaker and hopes to inspire millions across the world. He speaks Igbo, English and German.
Above all of these, he is a GOSPELER.
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